Assertiveness means respect my wishes, needs and values and find its form of expression into reality. Its opposite is the delivery to the shyness consisting to confine myself to a perpetual background in which everything I am remains concealed or attempted to avoid confrontation with someone whose values are different from mine, or please, placate or manipulate someone, or simply to be in good relationship with someone.Assertiveness does not mean belligerence or improper aggressiveness; It does not mean their way to be the first or stepping on others; does not mean to assert my rights being blind or indifferent to all others. It means simply the provision to pursue me by myself, to be who I am openly, to treat me with respect in all human relations. It amounts to a refusal to falsify my person to please others. Exercise self-assertion is living authentic way, speak and act from my convictions and innermost feelings, it is a way of life, a rule, admitting that at times there may be particular circumstances in which it is justified to decide not to do so, for example, when I am faced with a Reaver. Sometimes the self-affirmation manifests voluntarily submitting an idea or making a compliment; sometimes using an appropriate silence that suggests our disagreement: sometimes refuse to smile before a silly joke.